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your mother here, I wanted to write you so you know how we feel. Sometimes it’s hard and stressful and you know I can’t lie, you can feel it too. You might feel in those moments sick worried and asking yourself “how to make your parents love you” after all the trouble somehow you might feel you’ve caused. So here’s some tips for you:
You are you, and that’s the way it is, and we love you for who you are.
I carried you nine months in my belly, and the first time I knew you were there I felt like if I was blessed with so much joy. I was in a bitter-sweet time up until the second scan where the doctors assured me everything was fine, that you were perfectly healthy. I tried to imagine you once you would be in this world, in my arms. It was almost impossible to know how would you look like, how would you behave, how would you be with me or with daddy. No way we could have guessed any of those, we were just there waiting for you, regardless of how would you look like, or how you would behave, or how would you be like. Therefore, we can’t expect you to be what you are not, what we only wanted from day one was of you to be safe and sound.
Carry on doing what you do
Every day you discover something new, and it seems like you can’t stop thinking of it. Sometimes you are doing the same thing over and over, never getting bored about it, and some of those things you do are very noisy, and boisterous. You keep moving around so much and so carefree, and me or daddy have to chase you around. We get tired, very tired, sometimes annoyed. There’re times we try to keep you from doing what you are doing for some reason or another that you won’t understand. But while I’ll sound contradicting, please continue doing so, continue exploring, continue learning, keep trying and trying. Don’t lose that excitement and joy you have in you. You are doing great, you are growing beautifully, and we’ll be there to make sure you are safe and happy in whatever you focus on.
If you need to cry, cry..
You don’t speak yet, you blabber and make funny noises, sometimes you screech or you scream, or laugh too loud. Then many other times you cry or scream, and it makes mama and Dada upset, which in return there will be days that unfortunately we won’t have much patience and be annoyed at your tears and screaming. But you know, don’t keep yourself from crying, if you need to please do so, because otherwise we won’t know what is troubling you.
Let us know you are upset, so we can cheer you up, let us know when you are hungry so we can feed you, let us know when you are tired so we can put you somewhere you can rest peacefully, let us know when you need your nappy changed so we can change you into a fresh clean one.
Also, very important, remember to let us know when you are in pain so we can soothe you, or when you are ill so we can take care of you, or when you are feeling lonely so we can hug you and reassure you we are always there for you.
So if you need to cry, cry… We care about you.
You are constantly looking for us, keeping an eye on what is mama or Dada doing, and many times you wouldn’t let go of our arms or legs. You would chase us everywhere we would go around the house, or even in the same room. I’m even sitting beside you and there you are grabbing my arm and trying to climb on me, like a desperate koala bear. If I disappear for a moment even for just a second you freak out and start screaming my name. There’s been multiple moments where you wouldn’t let go of me, not even for going to the toilet.
The other day you snapped at Dada because he was looking into his phone for so long and not paying attention to you. You shouted at me because I walked away from you to do other things, or when I left you in the care of other people like family or the nursery so I could go shopping and go for errands.
But you know, deep inside we want you to need us, to want us, because it makes us feel wanted and loved. It makes us realise that we are very important to you. And you know, you are the most important to us, even when we do all those things we do that make you think otherwise, after all we are your mama and Dada.
Here you go my little baby, my beloved child, you don’t need to do anything special for us. Being in our lives is more than a blessing or a gift, you made us better in many ways. Whatever you do we’ll always love you, because it’s what parents do: love their children no matter what.
With light and joy,
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Nursing time is indeed a time of bonding, a moment that you share specially with your baby, only the two of you. But, sometimes you might feel like you could also be doing something else (mind you we all know feeding our baby is very important though!) and walking around with baby attached to your breast is discouraged! Here’s a few ideas of how to take advantage of the moment.
Note: all the ideas below have been tested by me and are based on my experience using the services and products mentioned. If you need more information about any please contact me or leave a message below and I’ll answer within 48 hours.
Learn a new language
Breastfeeding time is not only a quiet time to just nurse your baby it is also a time when you can do other things that doesn’t require two hands. It’s a time when you can study per example a new language! If you have a smart phone or an iPad (or similar) you have access to limitless sources of information, there’re many apps out there that can teach you any language you want at a touch of a button.
One of these apps is called Duolingo, it’s to my humble opinion to be the best so far, and the good news is it’s free! It’s user-friendly and you can learn at your pace, it’s available for Ios, Android and Windows Phone.
The design is simple and might be a bit childish but it looks very nice and neat. It works like if it was a game with a scoring system where you are rewarded with points which you use to unlock levels. Lessons are bite sized and I think they encourage you to do a daily lesson for 5 minutes. You have nothing to lose by trying it, it’s quite fun and many times I would be longer than the recommended five minutes!
With the power of internet we have courses to learn from at the reach of our hand. No more wasting time commuting and trying to find a reliable babysitter or friend or family member to take care of our children few evenings a week (unless you want to).
Massive Open Online Courses, also known as MOOCs, normally are very flexible and you can study at your own pace, some platforms like Alison even offer free courses!
Another one I’ve used also and it’s great is called Coursera, which offers courses from prestigious universities around the world. There’re many courses of all areas of study to satisfy your inner scientist, or maybe curious about social movements? The fee for each course are normally affordable and they provide also a certificate (for a small fee) after you pass the assessments and final exam.
And last but not least, Shawacademy.com is a user-friendly platform with an array of certified courses and Diplomas, they are still growing in terms of expanding their repertoire and popularity. Their Diplomas, normally an EQF level 5 (in the UK) are regulated by the European Qualifications Framework. The lessons are normally live on two set evenings during week days, but you can view the video of the lesson anytime from the day after it was recorded. The advantage of going live is that you can ask questions to the teacher on that lesson. I’ve done one Diploma and enrolled in another one, so far I can say I’m happy and I’ve learned a lot from each course.
Make a puzzle/jigsaw
If you enjoy making puzzles then it could be a great moment to make one, as you don’t need both hands. It’s a quiet and calming pastime and hobby. Just make sure to not to get too focused only on the puzzle and to check baby often (leaks, possets, etc).
There’re many sizes and styles of puzzles that I cannot recommend any shop in particular, though they sell many on Amazon or just search on the internet for ones with free delivery.
I particularly like those that are whimsical and fantasy, and I like framing them once I’ve finished them so I can put them up for decoration. They were pretty much a common Christmas gift when I was a child and once I ended up with three in the same holiday!
Write a diary
Even though we’ll never forget our first sight of baby on the scan, the first time you met and how beautiful and how light yet so precious she was. We’ll remember many things but not all things, and it could be a great idea to write down few things that happened every day.
I know, writing with one hand could be a bit hard and uncomfortable. Fret not! Remember your smartphone or iPad? It could already have an app installed that could lend you a hand (no pun intended) by converting voice into text! You’ll just have to press a button and say anything or dictate near the microphone and the app with write down what you say.
IPhone has already this option integrated to it, I’m not sure on Android phones but if you text “voice to text app” into google search you’ll find many websites talking about them.
There’s plenty more things you could do that won’t interrupt much your breastfeeding session, like I would sometimes trim my baby’s nails, he won’t let me do them if he’s not distracted enough! So I bought an Electric Nail file (I’m scared to clip my baby’s skin or finger by accident as he moves too much!) which is not expensive and it’s worth the money. I would file his nails when I’m feeding him and he just stares but lets me do it.
I’ve heard other mothers meditate too as it’s a quiet and peaceful time for them, I don’t dare doing that as many times in the past I’ve attempted meditation and failed, I would just fall asleep and even snore!
If you have any ideas or you want to share what you do while you breastfeed please comment below!
With light and joy,
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All babies at one point in their first year of life will experience diaper or nappy rash, and it’s not pleasant for the poor baby nor her worried parents. Thank goodness we have products to help them heal and/or prevent getting any, but there are so many brands out there! So the next question comes up. What is the best diaper rash cream for Babies?
I have created a list of creams that we’ve used on my little Bee and have proven to be effective and gentle to his skin. I’ll post in order from the best to the least likened, yet all of them works, they are just different and some are organic while the others are popular creams.
1st Place. Childs Farm
It’s a fairly new British brand of Organic skincare for babies, it’s specially aimed to Eczema prone skin, and believe me it’s really good! I first saw it on the aisle of baby products in my local Boots (a Pharmacy and drug store type of shop very popular here in England), and to the eye the design is appealing. The packaging uses happy and fun designs similar to collage cartoon featuring children in a farm and outdoors.
The range is quite extensive starting from newborn toiletries up, and we’ve been using the newborn range on Bee as soon as day one, and I have been recommending them to all of our friends. It has three important facts that convinces you to at least trying them:
- Organic. Yes! We try to not to expose our children to nasty things like chemicals as little as possible, their skin is greatly more sensitive than an adults’. The ingredients used are on the label, all of them, and they only use natural products.
- High value. They are of great quality yet very much affordable, it’s as good as leading brands like Weleda or Burt’s Bees!
- Accessible. It’s sold in Boots and many more shops and supermarkets like Tesco. Also online like in the colossal Amazon.co.uk or on their own website.
For more information about their product or range go and check their website, it’s packed of lots of facts and goodies like discounts: https://www.childsfarm.com/
2nd Place. Moogoo
Another organic brand that is getting more and more popular every day, coming from all the way from Australia. Its name comes from their first product originated from Udder Cream, yet because it was so thick its creator made a skincare product with natural ingredients that is lighter and non greasy. From then the range was extended as its clientele grew bigger, making the brand pretty much in high demand. It’s a bit on the expensive side, but it’s worth every penny, all their creams smell lightly like fresh cream and to me it smells yummy!
Moogoo has a baby range and their Nappy Balm is top-notch, non greasy and soft. We bought the baby toiletry set and it came with a rubber toy cow. It doesn’t say it’s for sensitive skin but all their baby range was created with that in mind and it won’t disappoint you. All the packaging design is fresh and clean resembling of a milk carton and products, with their cow picture in all of them, a very genius branding. For more information please visit their website: https://moogoo.com.au/
3rd Place. Weleda
Weleda is another natural focused product, with a big range of skin products as well yet a shorter one for baby products. The price range would be between the Moogoo and Childs Farm, making it affordable to most people, yet their Calendula Nappy change cream is quite rich and with a pea sized is more than enough for the whole area! There’s also a second version of the cream for the more hypersensitive skin called White Mallow Nappy change cream.
We’ve been given this cream as a gift from friends and before that we really didn’t pay much attention to this Swiss brand, but it’s not a new one compared to the former creams on the list. The company originally created the products in a pharmaceutical laboratory, and has been around for almost a century! Many people in Europe have benefited of its products and the brand grew stronger and better, it’s definitely one to trust.
4th Place. Sudocrem
This one is not organic, yet it’s worth to mention. Pretty much a popular one in Ireland and in the UK, and if not number one then pretty close, although organic products like Childs Farm is growing more popular every passing day. Nurses will recommend you this one first thing instead mentioning other brands, as it has been around for a while too! It’s pretty affordable to the par of Childs Farm, and it’s sold almost in all shops across UK and Ireland.
Its creator, Professor Thomas Smith, developed in his humble shop in Dublin a unique cream that was proven effective for minor skin lesions, included nappy rash and baby skin related ailments. It became highly demanded and popular when he did a genius move to give samples to new mothers, and from then they expanded to the British isles.
I already knew this brand back from my years living in Dublin when I was a Childminder, though I wasn’t a fan of its thick cream. When I had Bee I received some samples and one of those was the Antiseptic Healing cream, which I tried when Bee was three weeks old and developed a light nappy rash (because we ran out of the small tube of Childs Farm) so we used this one and it gave great results, also it’s lighter than the original Sudrocrem. We wouldn’t mind using it but we prefer to use natural creams on our children.
Creme de la Cream
I believe that there’s more great creams out there and I’m more than happy to test them out, preferably organic, and if I find one cream that tops any of the list I’ll update this post soon after. But for the time being, my baby and I love our chosen ones and we don’t have the need to change any of them. Do we share the same choices as yours? If not, please comment below and let us know (and who knows, eventually forcing us to provide an update? Lol).
With joy and light,