Month: March 2018

Top tips Breastfeeding

You’ve decided to breastfeed your baby and should be that simple right? I mean, how hard could it be, it’s simple you think, you just have to plug him into your breast and that’s it. Well Breastfeeding is far from simple, sorry to break this […]

Daddy care Day

I’ve been writing a lot about breastfeeding and about mothers and babies, but Daddies are equally helpful when taking care of the children, regardless their very different approach.

As mothers, we do our best caring of our little ones, sometimes we might become a bit like mumzillas, hoarding their attention so we do our way (thinking our ways and techniques are best, but it might not the only right approach), but some days for a reason or another we have to loosen the leash of child caring and relegate our partners, who can equally do a great job (if they want to that is).

Here’s some tips I’ve written (with help of my husband) about what they can do while on Daddy care day.

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It’s sunny, have a walk out!

If the weather is good of course, Daddy can walk baby around the park and shops, as they love the movement and seeing different things and people.

Staying at home all the time not only will remind your little one about mummy (and making them think she’s not around anymore, so they’ll start missing her), but chances are your child will become very bored playing with the same toys, and then grumpy.

Make sure you pack the essentials and some extras like:

  • sun cream of SPF 35+
  • a hat for baby (and maybe for daddy too?)
  • an extra bib
  • dry wipes or towelettes
  • baby’s drink (a full bottle just in case she becomes very thirsty)
  • some snacks for both
  • Rain/wind cover for pram (in Ireland I’ve learned that the weather can change dramatically) just in case.
  • Mobile Phone. Some Dads don’t bring their phones with them but it’s important when going with baby in case you need to make an emergency call.
  • Some money (yes, some people go out without money because they were just going for a walk…)

Soft Play Centres

Sometimes we get very bad weather, and if it’s not extremely bad we can still go out, Daddy can drive or walk short distances to an Indoor Play Soft Area, which is a place where there’s lots of physical activities similar to a playground, but the whole place (or most of it) is padded for the safety of the child.

There’re slides, mats with games on it, tunnels, fun corridors with bouncy toys, mirrors, etc. And although there’s staff supervising the area do not leave your child unattended in it. Normally there’s a Bar service on site with chairs and tables so parents can have something to drink and eat while keeping an eye on their children.

There’s usually a small area for under three’s which is enclosed and only babies with their carers can go in it, although some older siblings join to play with their baby brother or sister. If you bring older children in the infants and toddlers area please make them aware that there’re younger children and they need to be careful and gentle not only with their siblings but with the other babies.

A word of advice is some areas of some Soft Play Centres are a bit hidden/not visible, make sure you can see your child/children at all times, as sometimes it gets a bit busy on school holidays or bank holidays. Many times I’ve seen some children crashing into one another, on the floor crying, and their parents failing to see them because they were seating and chatting away on a corner where they couldn’t see them at all. Also, please let them know that although they get excited to not to push, scream, or get too rowdy, as there’re other children there and want to have fun too.

Bonding while learning

I’ve grown up with great memories of my parents and aunties taking me to trips to a museum. If you have easy access to one go for it!

Daddy can teach lots of things to younger ones in museums, for instance my Dad loves science so he would bring us to the Science Museum CosmoCaixa in Barcelona (city where I grew up), it still runs today and pretty much visited as it’s a highly recommended on the Tripadvisor website.

In London there’re many museums and some are as big that you would need two or three days to see all what it offers. The National History Museum for instance is amazing, it’s also very big and full of curiosities and things to see and learn. I’ve been there twice with my husband but we haven’t been there with our baby so it’s something that’s gonna happen sooner rather than later.

Two years ago I went to Edinburgh for the summer, and I fell in love with the City and its surrounding scenery and towns. The Castle is amazing and you can visit inside its buildings and rooms, learning the history of Scotland from the very beginning to what is today. We stayed in Pebbles which is a very beautiful town not so far from Edinburgh, I recommend it if you want to stay somewhere not too far from the capital city but want a more quiet area to spend some time in nature with your family, but still be accessible to many shops and amenities around.

If you happen to be in Dublin, Ireland, there’s an enchanting place in the south where you can go and spend the day with family. Powerscourt Gardens are in Enniskerry, County Wicklow, but you can get a bus from Dublin City Centre (bus 44 or 185). It’s a big Estate with amazing gardens with a small lake, a pagoda, a tower, there’s even a waterfall (but it’s not within the garden area, you’ll have to walk quite a while to get there from the gardens) and they have an amazing Avoca Terrace Cafe. Powerscourt also runs year-round events like treasure hunts, guided walks, gardening workshops, bug hunts & theater evenings. So plenty to do for Daddy and children!

Sticky and colourful fingers

We all know how arts and crafts are good to promote creativity, instill curiosity and encourage problem solving for children. It’s also a good way to socialise, to see other peoples creations and motivate to do more, to create something better.

I believe it’s a good way also for Daddies to have fun with their children, as in Arts and Crafts there’s no wrong or right and everything you want to do goes, it’s a good opportunity for grown-ups to be silly and childish together with their children. Loosening up a bit now and then is beneficial for the soul, it eases stress and worries, leaving more room for clarity and inner peace.

Of course not all activities are good for all ages, as children as little as one year old won’t be capable to, let say, build a fort with a card box (but if Daddy is happy to do that, willing to do most of the job then go ahead), so here I recommend some Arts and crafts you can do based on age of the child:

  • Younger than 1 year old

Splatting paint with hands and feet on a big white sheet of paper or an old bed sheet.

On a Plasticine block poking straw, colourful sticks or twigs, etc (any hard material will do)

  • 1-2 year old

On a big sheet of paper painting and sticking different textures on it like cotton for clouds, dry leaves for grass, thin tree bark for the trees, colourful paper tissues for flowers and butterflies, etc

Musical instruments with empty bottles filled (a quarter of the bottle) with different materials to recreate different noises like stones, buttons, dry pasta, sand, etc

  • 2-4 year old

Build a house or fort with a big box, make a flag with paper and a stick, paint the box to recreate walls, cut a door that can open and shut, etc..
Or if you don’t have a big box use bed sheets, move around chairs and use imagination to create one hideaway under the table or behind the couch etc…

Make a beautiful card for Mummy telling her how much you love her (put it in a box with a couple of her favourite treats in it) and hide it, then make a treasure map that will lead to it, and give it to her when she gets back home.

The possibilities are endless

As the title says, it’s all up to you how much you want to do with your child, how confident you are doing one thing or another, after all he/she is your child, and you as parents know best what works for you and your family. Just one thing: what matters most is that you are having fun together in a safe and happy manner.

Joy and light,

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How much to feed baby

Since the beginning, my baby boy has always looked thin. I used to imagine he would look like those cute plumpy babies from the magazines, but no, he was scrawny from the beginning. Midwives told us that is normal that newborn babies lose weight right after they are born and would not get back their birth weight until past a week or two. Well, Bee weighted twice his birth weight by 10 days, and no matter how much I fed him he still looked thin so made me wonder how much to feed baby? Definitely he was getting fed but, was it enough? I had to ask around, I went to read many magazines and looking through websites. These are the things that struck me most, I hope they’ll be helpful for you too!

Breastfeeding babies won’t overfeed

Babies that have breastfeeding milk will never be overfed. We might not be able to tell how much milk they are having, we’ll only be able to know how long they have been drinking though, but as long as we can feel they are sucking we’ll know they are having milk. If they can’t suck any more milk from one breast, they might cry for more milk so we can switch breast. They’ll have as much as they want or need, once they feel full or had enough then they’ll stop feeding, therefore as they choose, they won’t drink to the point of making themselves ill, babies aren’t this greedy with food yet, they are led by needs.

Feeding on demand

Babies that are so young (less than 6 months I would say) should be fed on demand, by sticking to a routine very early in their lives not only can be stressful for both of you but also could be counterproductive, even damaging, for the baby!

Babies need to feed as much as they need, we are not to dictate when or how often, they are normally better than us to know when they are hungry! Their stomachs are so little and are more sensitive, so gentle and gradual feeding routine should be introduced safely, that means when they are little much older from 6 months, but that depends on each child.

They are not like an adult that can handle many hours without eating, they are growing and developing internally at great pace and therefore they need a lot of nutrients, but can’t handle so much in one go, so little but often is ideal. It might clash a bit with your routine but remember, the first months you have to adjust your life around baby, not the way around!

Babies can still need feeding milk at nighttime even when they are one year old, forget about this age she’s supposed to sleep through the night! You as an adult, sometimes wake up in the middle of the night to drink some water, right? Should you refrain on doing so because you are an adult and should be sleeping through the night? Now, if your baby is one year old and is waking up every hour to feed then there’s something going on, it’s not normal! It could be that either is really hungry because haven’t had much to eat for dinner, or she’s just comfort-feeding (in the case of breastfeeding) or something else. Talk to your GP or Health visitor, they’ll be able to help you out with it.

 

Weaning when they are ready

You might be so impatient to feed solids to your child, and there’s so many baby foods out there that claim that are safe to give from 4 months. There’s even people that say that they fed their children at that age or even some earlier! And I’m here to tell you: don’t rush things. Your child again should dictate what she or he wants, and when.

Also, children are curious, they explore everything with their hands and mouth. Putting things in their mouths not necessarily mean they want to eat it but to know what are they, it’s a form of exploring. After all, the first thing they’ve learned even before holding something with their hand, was to taste it their mouth. As a fetus, in the amniotic sac, the liquid would go into their mouths, and they would feel it. The first thing after they are born is to suck from their mum’s breast..

Remember that your baby has just born, their little stomach is so delicate and small, it needs to develop into a stronger and bigger one, slowly. Each child is different, grows different, and each parent makes different decisions that will lead to different outcomes.

Saying that, if for any reason you let to be pushed into act differently to how you feel it should be done, if something goes wrong, you are the ultimate responsible for letting it happen. In parenting there’s not always a clear right or wrong, but you shouldn’t carry the burden of guilt from following the wrong advice. If you are not sure about something, gather different opinions from people with knowledge Pediatrics like your GP, health visitors, and midwives, and weight each advice so you can come up with a conclusion that you think it’s best.

 

Constipation

My mum kept telling me that my brothers ate solids from a young age, like the youngest did from 3 months old, that he ate this and that. My youngest brother now is a healthy and handsome young lad in his early twenties. My mum followed what she thought it was best for her child and he was fine with it, mine might not be. I started weaning Bee at 5 months and a half, I gave him cereals with both formula milk and expressed breast milk, following the advice that it was good for him.

He went constipated for several days and passed hard rock poos that he agonised doing. It was so bad he got scared of pooing. I gave him concentrated orange juice, barely diluted, also barely worked. I also did some tummy massage and “cycling” his legs. Then I decided to stop giving him cereals and solely breastfeed him, in few days he pooed normal again, but he would still be scared of passing stools.

I waited until he was 6 months to try again, this time with pear and apple puree, it went well until I tried to put cereals in it, then again constipation came. I introduced prune juices and prune puree and it helped gradually, also gave him some probiotic baby friendly bacteria (mixed in his foods) that seems to have helped too. But what really helped and was a game changer was when he started crawling. The exercise of moving his legs that way, making squatting movements, I believe it helped his bowel rhythms.
Now he eats almost everything and sometimes does a bit hard poos, but he doesn’t go constipated for lengthy times as before, and his phobia to poo has also gone thank goodness!

Summing it up

So this are my two cents of baby feeding, I followed how my baby felt, and it wasn’t easy, I wasn’t 100% sure of what I was doing but in the end it went well. So please, listen to your child, observe how she or he goes, but also very important, listen to yourself, what is your instinct/gut telling you?

 

With light and joy,


 

 

 

 

Snow “storms” March

Snow “storms” March

Outside is like a Christmas postcard, but without the festive feel. The sky is so grayish white, so dense, it looks like it’s going to snow hard tonight. It’s been snowing now and then but now I have the feeling that tonight will be a […]


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