What's New?

Co-sleeping baby Benefits?

This is a much debated topic. There’s lots of health bodies and professionals who claim that co-sleeping is actually dangerous for babies as it supposedly increases SIDS (sudden infant deaths). Yet there’s more and more studies emerging that with proper advice and following safety and […]

  •  
  •  
  •  
  •  
  •  
  •  
  •  
  •  
  •  
  •  
  •  

Ways to bond with a baby

If you look around the internet about ways to bond with a baby, you’ll find many many ways. But let me tell you the truth, there’s no right way or wrong as long as you care for that baby and spend time with him or […]

Top tips Breastfeeding

You’ve decided to breastfeed your baby and should be that simple right? I mean, how hard could it be, it’s simple you think, you just have to plug him into your breast and that’s it. Well Breastfeeding is far from simple, sorry to break this […]

Daddy care Day

I’ve been writing a lot about breastfeeding and about mothers and babies, but Daddies are equally helpful when taking care of the children, regardless their very different approach. As mothers, we do our best caring of our little ones, sometimes we might become a bit […]

Breast pain when breastfeeding

Breastfeeding comes with its multiple advantages, and some disadvantages, some latter are pains. In this post I’ll tell you all about some ugly side of my journey, about breast pain when breastfeeding. I hope it won’t deter you from giving your own milk to your little one, but it’s good to be aware of it so you know what is normal and how you can tackle it.

Engorgement

As you know, hormones plays so much havoc going up and down during pregnancy, and it stays like that if you decide breastfeeding. Engorgement occurs when your breasts swell and become painfully large as the milk production went overdrive (thanks to the crazy hormones).

They become like balloons and feel hard, and it often happens when the breasts are producing more milk than your baby normally takes.

Please be aware that as it’s very full, as soon as your baby sucks, it’ll come out shooting like a fountain and your baby might choke a bit and cough, but she’ll be fine. Also, you’ll spill milk if that happens so make sure baby is wearing a bib or have a flannel or little towel wipe at hand.

Mastitis

It looks a bit similar to engorgement and actually it can happen if engorgement is not dealt with, but the difference is that it’s a swelling caused by inflammation of the breast tissues, and it can easily lead to infection.

Your breast will feel hard, hot, painful, red and swollen, also you could experience some symptoms similar to flu like high temperature, headaches, chills and tiredness.
I suffered it a couple of times (yes, unfortunately you can get it more than once), once because baby slept all through one night after having cluster feeding for many nights, I woke up with a sore breast and found a lump in it. I tried massaging it and felt horribly painful that I got scared to touch it. I was so worried to feed the baby with the affected breast (yes it can affect one at a time!), as it was so painful when I tried him latching on it.

After reading some advice on websites I tried again and put up with the pain, believe me it hurts like hell, but when my baby had emptied the breast I felt much better and with a huge relief! The second time was when I used a very tight bra, after few days the tightness created a lump which became had and the surrounding skin became red.

 

Breast Lumps

As mentioned above in Mastitis, you might notice breast lumps now and then. They are blocked milk ducts, that happens for many reasons like:

  • Baby didn’t latch properly.
  • Tight bras that put too much pressure on the side of the breast, for this reason I recommend using a comfortable bra that won’t put too much pressure on your breasts, and avoid wired ones. I only use breastfeeding tops because they are not tight at all, but that’s you choice and choose whatever you feel comfortable with.
  • Mastitis
  • Engorgement
  • breast injury or bruise (like a baby biting)
  • In very rare cases it could be breast cancer (yes, breastfeeding doesn’t totally prevent getting breast cancer!)

How to treat the breast lumps? Feed, keep feeding baby! Warm baths or showers can help, also massage your breasts every day by shaking them for 2 minutes each twice a day. Use a breast pump if you want, I’ve used a manual one sometimes when a breast was too full but baby was asleep and I didn’t want to wake him up. I stored the milk in the freezer for another time when I would need it.

Baby teeth bites

Yes, OUCH. My baby had his first teeth around 4 months, his daddy had his at 3 months, yikes!

Teething hurts, we all know that but most adults seem to have forgotten how painful they really are, unless you are like me and kept your wisdom teeth intact and feel them once or twice a year! I’m seriously considering removing them soon (but I’m too scared of it), some day…

My boy would sometimes bite or press hard when he would feel pain, he doesn’t do it because he wants to hurt me, it’s an instinct reaction, when we feel pain we tend to press/clench our teeth.

My first reaction was to let a scream (and swear, I know I shouldn’t but I’m not perfect), it scared my baby at first but then he seemed to like it, so he bit me now and then to have a reaction. I read about it on the internet and followed the advice of not giving it too much attention (which was really hard). After a while he stopped doing it for fun, he still did now and then involuntarily.

I started giving him some Teething Granules or drops (homeopathic granules to treat teething pain) and it helped. Also, I give him some Calpol when he really is miserable and it is evening, so it would let him sleep at night without pain.

 

Conclusion

I don’t know if I left out anything important, so far all the above is what I can come up with right now. If you are concerned about anything please consult your Doctor or midwife, tell them if there’s a lump that worries you so they can check it out. Visit them if your Mastitis hasn’t gone away after few days, it might require a medicine to tackle an infection in your breast.

If you want to stop breastfeeding, you’ll probably have to deal with engorgement and Mastitis. What helped me stop milk production right after my first delivery (I lost my first dear baby before the due date, it’s still a bit painful to talk about it here, but one day I will) was taking a tea from a great brand called Earth Mama Angel Baby. The tea helped to reduce the milk production faster, it took me about four days for milk to fully stop producing any.

 

For the pain I would put on Lansinoh There-Pearl cold from the fridge, to relieve the pain. Some people use cold leaf cabbages, but I would rather eat the cabbages and reuse the Lansinoh pads! Also, stock on Paracetamol or Ibuprofen (the second one is better as it reduces swelling/inflammation, but refrain from taking it if you are pregnant), you will need it!

With joy and light,

 

 

Healthy home remedies

If you are a breastfeeding mother, chances are that your immune system is weakened by dealing with bad cold weather, colds passed by family or friends (or your own children) but mainly from being tired and having your hormones like a roller coaster. As you […]

How much to feed baby

Since the beginning, my baby boy has always looked thin. I used to imagine he would look like those cute plumpy babies from the magazines, but no, he was scrawny from the beginning. Midwives told us that is normal that newborn babies lose weight right […]

Snow “storms” March

Snow “storms” March

Outside is like a Christmas postcard, but without the festive feel. The sky is so grayish white, so dense, it looks like it’s going to snow hard tonight. It’s been snowing now and then but now I have the feeling that tonight will be a good long session of snow, the type that if you had forgotten where you parked your car, you would think that was a little white hill. Who ever thought there would be snow storms in March!

So much snow.. And so little inspiration. SO unfair. Being locked in the house doesn’t help much either, baby is grumpy because probably he misses a nice walk outside.

I feel down, like my defenses.

I also feel lethargic, I miss the sun so much! We are in March, when is the Spring coming?? I want to see Daffodils and Cherry trees blossoming, finding pink and white petals flying within the gentle breeze and landing on a green carpet of grass.

Maybe I’m suffering what is called Seasonal affective disorder (SAD), I am supposed to be used to the gray days thanks to living in the Emerald Isle for ten years. I thought I’ve built some kind of resistance but it seems not. I envy the Irish, so merry and humorous despite the unstable and downy weather they usually have! Right now I don’t envy them, they are quite busy dealing with an uninvited guest: Storm Emma.

Perhaps I might be coming down with a cold, although now that I think maybe I might have never got off the one I had few weeks ago. Pesky little viruses that like to go around the place spreading their “love”!!… Right now I regret saying “Sharing is Caring” so much to my child, I didn’t need a share of seasonal ailments!

Let it go

That’s what princess Elsa sung, in the middle of nowhere, she said also that “the cold didn’t bother me anyway”. No, cold DOES bother me! And no, I won’t let go my side of the blanket because my husband decided to become an uncut California maki.

I was sitting on the couch half zombie in saving power mode, and I remembered the ad of Ikea I read last month (I think it was) about their new campaign of selling Individual duvets Couple set. I remembered parts of the song of Shania saying to myself “you must be joking right?” and “That don’t impress me much”.

Then I looked outside the window, sneezed a bit, looked to my lovely husband and thought “Don’t get me wrong, yeah I think you’re alright, But that won’t keep me warm in the middle of the night”! Certainly not if he keeps stealing my share of duvet…

I’m starting to consider another trip to Ikea pretty soon.

Food takes long to cook and fast to get cold

Annoying isn’t it? You spend all the evening cooking something lovely, chopping nicely all those vegetables, checking the oven temperature, the cooking time, setting up the table… Then food is ready, you serve it on the table, husband just put baby to bed and he says he’ll be there in a minute as he needs to go to the toilet. He’s there three minutes, while sitting down he points out the toilet seat was as cold as sitting on a rock in a cave. As he finishes the sentence we have a bite to the food.. It’s already lukewarm… What the???

We don’t have the heating on all the time, it consumes a lot of electricity as we rent an old flat, so we use it mostly when the baby is in the living room, and we wear nice cozy bathrobes. I could understand that the food gets colder much quicker, but not that quick, It was only few minutes since I’ve served!

Well we ate all because at least it was tasty and we were hungry. We had a nice cod in wine sauce and vegetables, cooked in the oven for an hour. My husband says he wants to eat this again, and I replied I’ll do my best to remember what I put in it.

Husband’s mini vacation

My man works in schools, so basically he’s attached to the school holidays calendar, so they are not open for flexibility. But with the weather like this, which is out of our control, we don’t want to mess up with the safety of families, most importantly children. So many came up closing for the reminder of the week, therefore my husband got additional holidays.

It’s nice to have him here, Bee can play with Dada these days, and I have someone to take over so I can write this post. I love having him here but I fear that if it snows too much we are all going to get very grumpy soon if we can’t go out the house for at least for a couple of hours.

He normally gets a bit down when having to return to work after a break, I don’t want to imagine how he’ll be when he goes back on Monday. We don’t even know how the weather is going to be next week so who knows, the little vacation could turn out longer. That worries me a bit, because normally when things like this happens, work piles up, and when you get back to work there’s gonna be a heck of a pile of “homework” to do!

Rant over

So this is a summary of my snowy days so far. If I could I would go out and just scream, but I would need to go away a bit far to not to bother neighbours, and that means I would have to dig out a path through layers and layers of snow and ice. I can imagine myself trying to do that, and after digging one metre off I would be so exhausted that all the tension/anger/grumpiness would have evaporated (and falling down like icicles). Gosh it makes me feel tired just by thinking it!

Lets hope next week will be a warmer week. Definitely anything above 1 degree will be warmer. I just want the sun to come out for a day please!

 

With joy and light,

Take control of your time

So by now you probably know that being a parent means that much of your time is consumed by focusing on your little one’s needs (and cuddles and bonding time). While as a mum you feel that your main priority is your children and their […]


Once upon a time.. A breastfeeding start

Once upon a time.. A breastfeeding start

How it all started: Roleplaying

Once upon a time, I’ve always wanted to be a mother, since I was very young no doubt. I grew up in a very warm and close family, with my aunties and grandparents very close to help my parents out whenever was needed. My aunties used to take me out for walks and shopping, my uncles loved playing with me all goofy and there were lots of games, and my grandparents were almost like parent figures.

I was my parent’s first child and also the first baby in both sides of my parents’ families, the first granddaughter and niece all at the same time. I was treated as a princess and had lots of lovely clothes and toys for presents. Of those toys I had many dolls and always loved playing mummy and serving tea while I was holding one dolly on my arm. I would watch other mums around the park or streets and copy their moves.

In both countries where I was raised up, starting with breastfeeding is the natural choice, so I too naturally embraced it for my future children. When I became a young adult I moved to different countries as Ireland, and now settling in England, I’ve learned that many mothers opt strictly with only bottle feeding instead.

Choosing sides is irrelevant

There’s quite a very strong (and sometimes brutal I might say) debate over what’s best concerning newborns and babies’ nutrition. I mean brutal in the sense of seeing many parents going to great lengths to declaring the other side as an enemy, bitching each other and even some degrading all people who doesn’t agree with their beliefs.

There’s so much information about the battles of pro-breastfeeding and pro-bottle against each other, they are everywhere in every blog, website, magazine, newspaper, community centres, hospitals.. Each side making their own point, fiercely putting down their foot and trying to convince those who are undecided or doubtful.

While I’m strongly inclined for breastfeeding I do understand that what is best is to actually feed the baby whether is a breast or bottle. Not all mothers can produce enough milk, not all mothers have the means for breastfeeding nor the ideal situation in doing so. Therefore, as I’m sure deep inside we all agree that in the end of the day what matters are not only to have babies well-fed, but most importantly them being healthy, safe, and happy.

I don’t really want to dwell much on the debate but I’m more than happy to write a post about the pros and cons of each side from my point of view. So if you would like to please do pop me a request on the comments section below or email me. I’m here to help and give any support needed!

Gearing up

One of the things I encountered when I was buying all the things I needed was the lack of pretty clothes for breastfeeding mothers. Most of the dresses were similar, very simple and sporty, monochrome, most dark coloured like blue and black. There were lots of maternity dresses and many were amazing, but most lacked of functioning as a breastfeeding one.

I thought it was ridiculous, as we all know maternity last about nine months but probably on the last four we might need special clothes to fit around our growing bumps. Meanwhile, those who choose to nurse their baby (and stick to it) could be more than six months, or even a year or two breastfeeding! Wouldn’t be more practical to combine the two elements together in order to be cost effective? I guess it’s a lucrative business, taking advantage of the parenting hype and mother-to-be (full of excited and happy hormones) convincing them it’s all worth their hardly earned monies.

I’ve bought few pregnancy dresses already before I realized that I would be needing nice breastfeeding clothes too. I had bought cotton and bamboo reusable breast pads (one of the best buys ever!) and a couple of breastfeeding bras in h&m, black and white to be precise(very boring!).

A new quest?

Baby bee feeding

I didn’t want to give up, it took me years to find out my own fashion style and it makes me feel good wearing nice clothes!

Many mothers and nurses have told me it’s all about the babies, it’s all about sacrifices. I know life changes around having your own children and I’m committed fully to it, but I think loosing yourself, losing to take care of yourself, can have a potentially damaging effect which consequently will affect badly to the baby and any close relationship. I believe by becoming mothers we don’t lose ourselves, we UPGRADE ourselves! So let’s upgrade (and widen) our wardrobe together too. Cute nursing clothes here we come!

 

 

 

With much love,

 

 

Note: I welcome all parents to visit my website and look around as much as they want, regardless your view of breastfeeding. While my website is about fashion around breastfeeding mums, it’s done with fun and I invite anyone to post about their thoughts and experiences to share with all of us. After all, parenthood is not about having children in our lives but us growing as well with them, making new experiences and growing a strong bond between us. It can be overwhelming sometimes and some other parents out there are not in a good moment or place, let us keep company and share some laughter together, and help each other to walk through the dark together.


error: Content is protected !!